Buddha once said that the way to happiness is actually quite simple; the secret is to learn to want what you have and not want what you don’t have.
To me this rings true, although it has taken me almost 47 years to figure it out. Just last night I was tagged in a post from this woman. She posted to several other runners and myself this comical picture She goes on to say, “literally me when I see some of the times y’all post on here. Thanks for inspiring me daily.” I have been told by people as I wrote in my photography blog, But All You Do Is Press A Button, how beautiful my pictures are and they wished they had a camera like mine so they could take beautiful pictures as well. Yes, I know it’s hard to believe, even I have found myself guilty of this very same thing. Damn this runner or that runner is fast. I wish I could run like them. That photographers images are incredible. I wish I could shoot like that.
Unfortunately most of our problems in life come when we believe that the grass is always greener on the other side. We are taken over by envy, believing that other people have what we need to be happy and then feeling sad or anxious by the belief that we just don’t measure up. We are taken over by greed, material, financial or physical, wanting more and more and more, feeling that what we have and who we are can’t ever be enough.
But once we’ve made it over to greener pastures, once we have gotten to the place where we thought we would be happier, we discover that we are no better off than we were before. Now we are right back to square one and we start looking again for that golden ticket to happiness.
With all the social media these days we are exposed to so much more of the world. We are in contact with people who just a few short years ago we never would have known existed. I never would have known who @americanrunner is and seen how much faster he was then I. I would never have seen the beautiful photography of @beniminsanlarim. The problem with having all of this at your fingertips is that we become restless. We can’t be happy with what we already have or who we are because we’ll always be wondering about or seeing posts about whatever the next big thing is to you. Should we take a lesson from the DirecTV commercials about the settlers? Which in itself is trying to make us feel bad if we only have basic cable. Maybe we need to take it at face value and see that just having basic cable is ok. I mean seriously, I have access to 1,000 channels and still only watch the same few shows on the same few channels. Cause as you all know it just takes longer to flip through 1,000 channels to figure out there isn’t a damn thing on. It’s ok, be a settler and be happy with what you have.
Happiness is a state of mind. How do you achieve it? Beats me. Maybe make new friends, settle into a new workout routine, find ways to enjoy the here and now instead of what the Jones’s have or what could be, if only. Set new goals, challenge yourself to be your best self instead of trying to be like someone else. Your glass really is half full. Look at all your blessings and you will be more likely to be content. I know I am or at least I’m getting there.
Remember that all we have is today. We aren’t guaranteed tomorrow. So forget about the past. Don’t worry about the future. Love hard and laugh deep or vise versa. Take each day as it comes, and most of all, stop thinking that the grass is greener, because you know what; it never really is. It has taken me far too many years and a lot of grief to figure this out. There is always going to be someone bigger, better, faster, smarter, stronger and better looking. (Well I don’t know about the better looking part.) Let me help you with the laugh deep part I dare you to listen to this and not laugh hard. Just remember your life could always be worse, you could be Brian Regan and Stupid In School. Have a great week my friends.